On the left…me at the end of August 2021. Unhappy, battered, beaten, anxious, depressed and in a broken marriage. I was considering leaving the cyber security industry completely after enduring the most horrific time in it. I was suffering from complex post-traumatic stress disorder from a lifetime of parental narcissistic abuse, although I didn’t know it at the time this photo was taken. I wouldn’t be diagnosed with that until a few weeks after this photo was taken by my therapist, nor would I realise until mid-September 2021 that I had suffered a lifetime of narcissistic abuse at the hands of my parents, ex-friends (emphasis on the ex) and people I previously worked with. Up until I realised this thanks to my therapist in September, I was in complete denial about it and honestly thought that much I had been subjected to was normal!

On the right….me on Saturday 6 November 2021. Happy, determined, motivated, empowered, confident, rebuilding my marriage and still in cyber security. Healing from complex post-traumatic stress disorder and feeling free and able to be my authentic self for the first time in my life.

I think the two photos speak for themselves. I can see so clearly in the photo on the left how much I was weighed down and that there is a sadness in my eyes and face. So different to the photo I took of myself on 6 November – I look relaxed, happy and as if a weight has been lifted from me. It really has.

I’m very proud of how far I’ve come in just 3-4 months. I didn’t imagine I would be where I am today. But my healing journey is not over. I’m still having EMDR therapy and every day is a learning curve. I’m still learning about narcissistic abuse and how much I’ve been affected by that my entire life and learning coping mechanisms to deal with anything that triggers me. Some unlikely people came forward who have helped me, and I can’t thank you all enough – you know who you all are.

I posted some lessons I learnt this year the other day, and I’m excited about the future, excited about the work I’m doing in cyber security and excited for what is to come next from me….bring it on! I’m more than ready! I hibernated for a few months, but I’m back now!

Whatever you are doing, it is never too late to change course, heal and get back onto the path that best suits you. I didn’t think it was possible to change at my age, but it is. Lisa 2.0 is loading….

You only have one life, it is too short to waste on the wrong people and doing things that don’t serve you.

Life Body Soul Spirit
Hi, I'm Lisa Ventura, and my blog “Life Body Soul Spirit” focuses on finding my authentic self through a journey of healing and recovery from narcissistic abuse and its associated trauma, complex PTSD and living with autism. It also focuses on how I work to improve my mental health on a day to day basis. This blog also aims to help you find peace, calmness and happiness in your life while we live in a busy and chaotic world.

It contains articles, hints, tips and advice to help you with self-care, happiness, positivity, mindfulness and your lifestyle. I hope this will be a space for people to go for support, insight, inspiration, help and information to help you tune into your life, soul, body and spirit and live your best life.